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I don't do this for the fanfare...


...or the swag


...or the amazing sex with Nichkhun...


I do this for us...


...and I do it for them.


Oh, come on you guys. Couldn't you muster a little enthusiasm?





That's...great. How about the rest of you bring it somewhere to a middle?


This is why Paradise Ranch was terrible. You have no range.


Changmin, I will get you a delicious X-tra large New York-style pizza if you get the others to show me some appreciation for all my hard work. And if you put down the gun. That would be nice, too.



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Bon Jovi - Bed of Roses. Part of a High School Flashback Superplay :)
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Cathy Dennis - Too Many Walls. Part of a High School Flashback Superplay :)
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Tori Amos - Doughnut Song (Live). If "Boys for Pele" doesn't speak to you yet, wait. It will.
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KARA - Lupin. A Best Fuckin' Five Quintuple Play.
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H.O.T. - Haengbok (Happiness). Later covered by Super Junior and then Changmin in a banjun drama episode. Part of a H.O.T. triple play.
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H.O.T. - Gangster's Paradise (Acapella). It's exactly what you think. Part of a H.O.T. triple play.
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H.O.T. - We Are the Future. Part of a H.O.T. triple play. Also,? OMG their hair!
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Wheesung - Insomnia. OMG, I think I might like his cover better. :)
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Craig David - Insomnia. Funny enough, I heard the remake first.
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Michael Giacchino - Enterprising Young Men. From the new Star Trek. Getting my nerd on.
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The first time I didn't feel it, but this time I feel it, and I can't deny the fact that you like me, right now, you like me!

You really like me! )
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Johnny Hates Jazz - Shattered Dreams. Part of a Shawn Spencer mixtape superplay.
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I had to wait a few hours before I could form a polite response to this, because I respect the APOPA girls and because J.ae is entitled to her opinion. After a few hours of Saint's Row 2, a huge piece of birthday cake, and not nearly enough sleep, my response to this section of the interview is as close to the happy medium of ready and fresh as I'm gonna get. I promise not to drop any F-bombs, which I will admit that even now, takes serious effort on my part.

*cracks knuckles*

"They signed a contract."

"They would be nothing without SM."

"Where's their loyalty?"


Imagine, if you will, a marriage. A marriage is a legally binding contract. An unbelievably rich guy picks some poor-to-middle class girl to be his wife. The girl has been...compromised in life. She's been homeless, has had to live hand-to-mouth on the streets, is in this country alone and is desperately trying to keep what's left of her family together, has a controlling stage parent, or maybe her parents just didn't pick the richest profession. But there is something undeniably special about her that the rich man can see. He says that everything she wants will be hers, that he will pay for everything if he marries her, if she follows his rules and if she signs an extremely strict and one-sided prenuptial agreement. "Just give me thirteen of the best years of your life, and if you're unhappy, after that you can leave me," he says. Desperate for a chance at a better life, the girl agrees and they marry.

The man works the girl to the bone every day. She barely has time to see her family. She doesn't get more than four hours of sleep a day. Even though he is incredibly wealthy, her personal allowance is a mere pittance; she can never put enough by so that she can leave him. He withholds medical care if her illnesses are inconvenient to him. He puts her on restrictive diets that make her lose more weight than is healthy. He pays for her to get plastic surgery. He is emotionally and physically abusive to her. But every day, she comes home to her beautiful condo and every day he dresses her in beautiful clothes. Men everywhere want her, but she must obey her husband.

It is discovered that she has a special talent. Her husband invests in that talent, paying thousands of dollars so that she could rise to the top of her profession. But he keeps almost all the money she makes, again, preventing her from putting enough away so that she cannot leave him.

Years go by. Soon the wife is the husband's greatest return investment. She continues to work as hard, if not harder, as she always has, but she wants some time to nurture her talents further, to grow as a person, she would like a little more freedom, and an increase in her allowance.

Keep in mind that a wife asking for more from such a generous husband is deeply frowned upon. This was not what they agreed to when they got married. "But it's been 7 years! People change." she says.

"I don't." says the husband. So she scrounges up what money she has and takes the first brave steps towards leaving him, even though if she breaks the prenuptial agreement, she could be indebted to him for the rest of her life.

Marriage is a legally binding contract. But you would not expect a woman to stay in an abusive marriage just because she signed an unfair prenuptial agreement.

People snipe about the woman, "She would be nothing without her husband!" Perhaps, perhaps not. The woman had undeniable natural talent and charisma. If she had been discovered by a more scrupulous man she might still be well-renowned and happy.

People say, "Where is her loyalty?" Is a man who exploits and abuses the wife that worked hard for him for seven years and made him a richer man than he once was entitled to her undying loyalty?

People have pointed to his previous marriages, "Yes, he was a bad husband and his prenups were unfair, but he bought that ungrateful woman everything she wanted! His other wives didn't leave him. They were loyal! This woman is greedy and selfish. Marriage is a partnership. You have to put the marriage first. Were those other women stupid or something?" That is their decision and I would argue that staying, while it may not be a stupid decision, it is one that will ultimately hurt them and stunt their individual growth.

The statements put forth by J.ae in regards to TVXQ's situation smack of enabling an abusive relationship. I understand that she is in the industry, but that doesn't make her right.


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